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The Phenomenal Story of Kadambini: One of India’s First Women Graduates & Doctors

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During the East India Company’s rule in India, women’s rights and education seemed a far cry. Women hid behind their veils, and social evils like child marriage and sati marred society.

Most women were not allowed to get an education or be working professionals. Marriage, childbearing and rearing were deemed the only aspirations they could have.

But this is NOT a story about oppression. Instead, it is a coming-of-age story of the earliest female emancipations in pre-partition India. Of how one woman smashed the glass ceiling, shattered all stereotypes and became a trailblazer for generations to come.

This is the story of Kadambini Ganguly, one of the first women graduates from India and the entire British Empire, who moved on to become one of the first female physicians trained in western medicine in the whole of South Asia.

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File Photo of Kadambini Ganguly Source: Wikimedia Commons

With a series of firsts to her credit, Kadambini Ganguly was also one of the earliest working women in British India.

Who was Kadambini?

Born Kadambini Bose in Bhagalpur, she was raised in Changi, Barisal (now in Bangladesh).

Her childhood was strongly influenced by the Bengal Renaissance and her father, Braja Kishore Basu, was a renowned champion of the Brahmo Samaj. As a headmaster, he was dedicated to female emancipation and co-founded Bhagalpur Mahila Samiti in 1863, the first of its kind women’s organisation in India.

A young Kadambini completed her formal education from Banga Mahila Vidyalaya, later merged with the Bethune School. She was the first candidate from the Bethune School to appear for the University of Calcutta entrance exam and created history becoming the first woman to pass the test as early as 1878.

Her success encouraged Bethune College to introduce FA (First Arts) and Graduation courses in 1883. Kadambini was one of the first two graduates, along with Chandramukhi Basu, in the entire British Raj.


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Kadambini & Dwarkanath Ganguly

Apart from education, she challenged everything the society deemed acceptable at every step. She married her teacher, Dwarakanath Ganguly, a prominent Brahmo Samaj leader from the Banga Mahila Vidyalaya, who was 20 years older to her.

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File Photo of Dwarkanath Ganguly

Not one Bramho member accepted their wedding invitation.

When most thought she would put an end to her education after graduating, Dwarkanath encouraged her to study medicine. Her decision to do so as a woman received severe backlash in the Bhadralok (upper caste Bengali) community.

So much so that the editor of the popular periodical Bangabasi, Maheschandra Pal, referred to her as a courtesan in his piece.

Angered by the editor’s shenanigans, Dwarakanath confronted him, and in a not very subtle manner, made him swallow the piece of paper where that comment was printed. He was sentenced to six months’ imprisonment and paid a fine of one hundred rupees.

Becoming one of India’s first woman doctors.

But the road to becoming a doctor was a difficult one. Calcutta Medical College refused to admit Kadambini as a candidate despite her merit because there was no history of Indian women studying there.

Dwarakanath, for the longest time, had also been campaigning to ensure accommodation and enrollment of female students in Calcutta Medical College. It was only after the couple legally threatened the authorities, did they allow Kadambini to study.

1886 marked her record as one the first Indian women physician eligible to practice western medicine alongside Anandi Gopal Joshi. She received her GBMC (Graduate of Bengal Medical College) degree, allowing her to practice.

She even left for the United Kingdom in 1892 to get more experience in her field and received various certificates from Edinburgh, Glasgow, and Dublin. After returning to India, she worked for a short period in Lady Dufferin Hospital and started her private practice later.


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Social movements

Her thoughts were radical. She was at the forefront of several social movements. She was instrumental in the fight that sought to improve conditions of female coal miners in the Eastern India. She was also a part of the Indian National Congress’ first ever female delegation (women who were selected to vote) in its 5th session.

When the Partition of Bengal divided the country in 1906, Kadambini organized the Women’s Conference in Calcutta for solidarity and served as its president in 1908. In the same year, she openly supported the Satyagraha and mobilised people to raise funds to support the workers.

She served as the President of Transvaal Indian Association formed after the imprisonment of Mahatma Gandhi in South Africa and worked tirelessly for Indians there.

Kadambini openly spoke against the Calcutta Medical College’s practice of not admitting female candidates at the Medical Conference of 1915.

It was her provoking lecture that led the university authorities to amend their policies and open their doors to all female students.

Her husband’s death in 1898, made her mostly withdraw from public life and affected her health too. A year before her death, she visited Bihar and Orissa to help women mining labourers.

Until the day she died, she did not turn down any of medical calls. She died on 7th October 1923, fifteen minutes after returning from one of her regular medical calls. Unfortunately, she left the world, before any medical aid could reach her.

As a champion of women’s education and rights, Kadambini Ganguly may have long gone, but she will never be forgotten!

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Build It up With Pins & Needles! This Delhi Group Uses Embroidery to Empower!

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It often seems like humanity and generosity have taken a backseat. Most of us are busy with our lives, unable to offer help, while there are several people who live below the poverty line set by our government.

A Delhi-based organisation named Pins and Needles is providing help to women from underprivileged backgrounds, especially those who have migrated to the city.

Founded by Mrs. Simran Preet Kaur – a resident of Greater Kailash, Delhi, and a social worker, Pins and Needles offers help to many underprivileged people with ailing family members.

Sitting in her beautiful garden, Simran explains that the idea behind Pins and Needles is simple — empowering young girls and women by reviving the dying art of embroidery.

The organisation gets in touch with women from underprivileged backgrounds who are often battling depression owing to financial issues and illnesses in their families. They are then taught the art of embroidery and making beautifully embroidered hoops.

These hoops are sold in the market by members of the organization and the revenue is given to the women involved in making them.

It’s a unique way of involving women in something constructive, which also serves as a source of income for them.

As beautifully explained by Simran Preet Kaur, “The mind is diverted from diseases and daily life problems. They see colour in their lives in the form of cloth and threads. It is very therapeutic.”

Members of Pins and Needles procure all the raw materials like hoops, fabric, and threads themselves. They choose various designs, which also include theme-based ideas like those for birthdays, mother’s day, festive greetings, housewarming etc. The women are trained and imparted skills in transferring the designs onto the hoops. The end product is a beautifully crafted and hand-embroidered hoop, which can be gifted to friends, families, and colleagues.

The products are not just limited to hoops but include pillow covers, towels, bed sheets, and bags too.

The hoops are sold at various boutiques and shops across Delhi. The members themselves use them as gifts for their families and friends. At present, around 100 hoops are sold each month giving livelihood to several members.

When asked about her future plans, Mrs. Simran Kaur says, “My idea is to get these ladies some permanent embroidery work at a boutique or in an export house. Even if they go to their villages, they can still make pillow covers, bed sheets and more to make a decent living.”

She adds by saying that her journey of being able to do her bit and empowering young women has been extremely satisfying and she will continue to do so.

If you wish to contribute to Pins and Needles, visit their Instagram page here.

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How This Foundation Turned Thousands of Poor Women Into Business Owners

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Sri Padmavathi Mahilabhyudaya Sangham (SPMS) is India’s first registered federation of urban self-help groups. Their journey of 25 years offers inspiration and insight for those interested in poverty alleviation, particularly in the urban context. It is a federation of 529 self-help groups, and 6,500 women members. Organised into 20 cluster associations, members have saved ₹13.61 crores over these years, generating loans of ₹292 crore. An average of ₹4.8 lakh per member.

Through access to timely, reliable, non-collateral based and repetitive source of credit, women members have been able to set up their own enterprises and take a leap out of poverty. These entrepreneurs now need advisory services for accounting, taxation, legal, technology, marketing inputs. They also need to be connected now as individual entrepreneurs directly with a formal financial system.

There are many others with the potential of similar transitions, which can be facilitated through continued credit, cross learning and market linkages.

SPMS has addressed another critical link between urban poverty and housing. Housing not only provides a sense of security, but also residential stability, which is critical for livelihood. Members have received access to finance for home improvement/addition, and new home construction, leveraging their membership of self-help groups instead of giving a collateral. These women have demonstrated the role of social capital in making a well-performing portfolio on housing, with a repayment rate of 98% in a challenging urban context. 475 groups have been involved in the initiative. So far, 1080 houses were upgraded with an amount of ₹2.69 crores and 625 new houses were constructed with an amount of ₹4.39 crores; ₹7.08 crores in housing loans over 22 years. The linkage has been established with HUDCO, HDFC, NHB and NABARD financial institutions. The need now is to expand this besides addressing poor awareness and management capacity of individuals through better negotiation and linkages with vendors.

The life of the urban poor is filled with vulnerability. The uncertainties of occupation, coupled with other social factors such as age, gender and health can drag a household into the cycle of poverty. Usual social support is not available to migrants away from home. SPMS has pioneered a mutual insurance programme – Paraspara Sahaya Nidhi – through which members have received immediate cash in times of need, besides seed capital for strengthening livelihoods. Through a subscription of ₹250, the initiative provides a cover of ₹20,000.

Over 10,000 lives have been covered in partnership with insurance companies, for reinsurance leading to a settling of claims of ₹40-50 lakhs.

All this has been possible due to the deeply embedded practice of leadership rotation. 134 members have served as directors of the institution while almost 1,250 have been in leadership roles at various levels. This needs to be continued now with a focus on grooming next generation of leaders. The women have the fire to continue their legacy of evolution and stay vibrant.

No Small Change – stories of women who stand tall – is a film that captures the journey of 25 years of India, through the voices of real protagonists – women who have taken a leap out of poverty through sheer resolve and courage amid their ongoing struggles. Their journeys show the power and potential of social capital in this transformation.

SPMS is keen to develop partnerships to bring in another generation of change. To get in touch with them, email spmsthirupathi@gmail.com. The filmmakers can be reached via vriddhirural@gmail.com

(Written by Vartika Jaini)

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Want to Support Women? Here’s How You Can Do It Over a Weekend in Udaipur!

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The season to visit Udaipur is approaching – September to February is the best time to avoid Rajasthan’s scorching heat and monsoon rains.

Udaipur is awash with beauty and its rich cultural heritage is still visible in its lake palaces and thriving craft tradition. On a weekend in Udaipur, you can start the day with yoga with the eccentric Prakash, then explore vestiges of the extravagant Mewar Kingdom at the City Palace. At sunset, take a jeep uphill to the Monsoon Palace and see Udaipur’s most stunning view; then watch fire dancing and puppetry at Bagor ki Haveli.

But there’s more to Udaipur! Go beyond the tourist trail and meet some of the city’s most fascinating characters, learn local crafts, and support women’s enterprise along the way.

Take home handmade gifts from Sadhna

Women at Sadhna

Sadhna began with just 17 rural women. Today, 700 artisan stakeholders merge traditional Rajasthani style with contemporary trends to create beautiful clothing, homeware and accessories.

To understand the story of Sadhna, you must hear Choti’s story.

Choti was never sent to school and was married at 15, spending her days collecting firewood and ploughing the fields. She joined Sadhna 26 years ago, when severe drought forced the women of her village to look for alternative incomes. It changed her life forever. From stitching, Choti became a Sadhna saleswoman and has represented India at exhibitions around the country, at a peace initiative in Lahore, and as far afield as London.

In 2000, Choti staged a protest with the women and children of her village, which led to the district magistrate promising better access to water for everyone. Now, rather than one handpump for the entire village, there is one per household, and, with toilets and community-wide initiatives on sanitation, Choti’s village is one of the cleanest in the region.

Choti is now designing the garments which appear in Sadhna’s showrooms. She bought her own flat, and paid for her children’s education – they both have undergraduate degrees. Choti is a role model in her community and beyond.

Visit Sadhna’s Udaipur showrooms to meet the fierce Choti and other artisans gaining independence and demanding more for their communities. You’ll be changing lives.

Visit for free; Jagdish Temple Road, Udaipur Old City – or shop online at sadhna.org.

Explore a village in transition and learn about development

Just 40 minutes outside of Udaipur, take the Delwara Heritage Walk, where local guides introduce you to the culture and people of a historic village. Your fee goes to the youth centre, where girls are learning computing and crafts, and getting educational support.

Developed as a partnership between NGO Seva Mandir and the local community, the Heritage Walk offers a unique insight into a changing community. The guide introduces people and places that paint a picture of the shifting nature of caste relations, women’s rights, access to water, livelihoods, sanitation, and the preservation of heritage. Explore 1000-year-old Jain temples, stunning step wells, and try your hand at thriving local crafts.

The Delwara Heritage Walk costs ₹300 with a discount for larger groups. Everything can be arranged by contacting Seva Mandir in Udaipur on +91 8107495390 or by email at delwarawalk@gmail.com.

Cook up a storm with Shashi

Shashi’s (L) cooking class

When Shashi was widowed, tradition forced her to stay indoors for a year, secretly taking in washing work to support her children. She started her cooking school with the inspiration of two Irish travellers who came for dinner with her son. In a whirlwind morning, Shashi will teach you 14 wonderful dishes, including her famous ‘magic sauce’.

During her class, Shashi welcomes travellers into her family, sharing her story of overcoming stringent gender and caste boundaries. Tourists have helped her develop her business model, website and cook book. Classes start at 10:30am and 5:30pm, with small groups of 4-5 people. A truly wonderful experience.

Shashi’s class is ₹1,000 for 4-5 hours cooking, including ingredients. Udaipur Old City. Contact: 09929303511 or email shashicooking@gmail.com

(Written by Lydia Shellien-Walker)

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The Legend of Kamakhya: How the Bleeding Goddess Celebrates the ‘Shakti’ Every Woman Has

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While a large percentage of people in India continue to remain aloof when it comes to speaking out loud about menstruation and the issues faced by women, a temple that is well worn with time celebrates one of the most natural biological processes.

The Kamakhya temple is not just a famous pilgrimage site in Assam, but is also a unique temple in the country.

The Kamakhya Temple in Guwahati. Source: Wikimedia.

Located on the Nilachal hill in the capital city of Guwahati, the deity of the temple, Kamakhya Devi is revered as the ‘Bleeding Goddess’.

It is believed that the ‘Garvagriha‘ or the sanctum sanctorum of the temple houses the mythical womb and vagina of the Hindu goddess Shakti.

Curiously enough, every year during the month of Ashaad (June), the Brahmaputra river near Kamakhya turns red. It is believed that the goddess ‘menstruates’ during this period.

Contrary to the shaming treatment that menstruation gets elsewhere in India, here it is revered as the ability of a woman to conceive.

Idols adorning the walls of the temple. Source: Wikimedia.

Considering this to be a woman’s power to give birth, the deity and temple of Kamakhya is a celebration of this ‘shakti’ within every woman.

The story of origin is behind the temple quite interesting. It revolves around the Hindu gods Shiva and Sati.

Legend has it that Sati fought with her husband to be part of the grand yajna that her father was offering to appease the gods—of which both were purposefully not invited to. Paying no heed to her husband’s advice, Sati headed to the yajna nevertheless, only to be insulted by her father.


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The last straw was when he spoke ill of Shiva as well. Unable to bear the insult, Sati leapt into the very sacrificial fire of the yajna.

When Shiva came to know of what had happened, his anger knew no limits. Carrying his wife’s burnt corpse, he went on a rampage with his ‘Tandav‘ or the dance of destruction.

While all other gods cowered in fear under Shiva’s rage, it was Vishnu who sent his chakra and cut the body, in order to calm the aggrieved deity.

It is believed that Sati’s body parts fell in 108 locations across the country, which are today known as Shakti peeths.

The place where her womb and vagina fell is what constitutes the Kamakhya temple.

A menstruating idol at the temple. Source: Wikimedia.

Kamakhya finds its name from the Hindu God of love, Kamadeva. As the story goes, the god had sought out Shakti’s womb and genitals after having lost virility to a curse.

As a tribute to Shakti and her ability to lend back Kamadeva his potency, the deity of Kamakhya Devi was installed and continues to be worshipped until today.

The place where the Kamakhya temple stands today is also considered to be where Shiva first courted Sati.

An offering of Hibiscus flowers for the Devi. Source: Wikimedia.

In a country that continues its archaic attitude towards menstruation as unholy and gruesome, it is important for each one of us to know the progressive approach that the Kamakhya temple displays—of celebrating womanhood.

While there is no image of Shakti in the temple complex, it is Yoni or the female genitalia of the goddess located in the corner of the cave in the temple that is the object of reverence.

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Indian Ads on Periods Have Got It All Wrong, and Here’s How to Fix That

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The manner in which menstrual products are represented in Indian TV commercials has a lot to do with how society perceives menstruation in the first place. Not only do these ads depict society’s stigmatised view of menstruation as being filthy and taboo, but they also further validate it.

Advertisements are made with the sole purpose of selling the product. It doesn’t matter, then, if they manifest the negative cultural perceptions surrounding menstruation, and, as a result, strengthen the stigma attached to women’s bodies. As long as the product is selling, it’s all good.

The purpose of this article is to analyse how menstruation is represented in Indian advertisements and to deconstruct the underlying meaning of the recurrent imagery and language used in these commercials.

Let’s start by discussing the premise under which these ads are created. While marketing sanitary pads to their Indian consumers, most ads are concocted under one theme – women empowerment.

The girls jump fences, run for social causes, become abnormally bright and breezy, and why? Because they’re wearing a sanitary pad. These pads will protect them, save them and boost their confidence.

Heck, it’ll even make them scale mountains with no special skill needed, thank you.

Screengrab of Stayfree’s 2017 advertisement

At the same time, however, these ads depict menstruation as a debilitating evil. One that affects their sleep, their school grades, and their career prospects. The women are awkward, irritated and repulsed by it.

Stayfree’s 2008 commercial ran with the tagline ‘Kisi bhi roop ke sath samjhauta nahi’. The woman in the ad wouldn’t have to compromise with whatever role she chose to play – whether that of a teacher or a loving daughter – thanks to Stayfree’s ultra thin, secure, dry sanitary pads.

The fact that the ad assumes that a woman is somehow compromising with her true identity, or is always low on self-esteem when she’s on her period makes menstruation look like some kind of a disease.


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A recurring imagery in these ads is the use of the colour white. From their clothes to the bed sheets, everything is white. Even the walls and curtains are white! What won’t be immediately evident to the consumer is that here, white is a major subtext, which marks a clear distinction between regular happy days – when not on the period – and ‘those days’.

The advert tries to tell the consumer, ‘Hey, you can wear or sit on anything that’s white, take these pads and rest assured you’ll never stain.”

However, what it actually does is use a concealment strategy in a more convincing white environment.

Screengrab of Whisper India’s 2013 advertisement

Their desperation to eliminate and exclude any sign or ‘mark’ that would prove the woman is menstruating becomes evident with these reappearing images of all-things-white.

Experiences of menstruation are different for every woman, but there’s one thing that all of us have in common – we don’t bleed blue. The misrepresentation of menstrual blood as a blue gel is problematic on so many levels. Although meant for those who menstruate, these ads are created keeping in mind the discomfort society would go through if they saw the dirty, unholy period blood.

Even though it is just a gel, why can’t it be red in colour?

From Whisper India’s 2017 ad

Hence, the aspirations of the advertisement match the socio-cultural aspirations of society.

Forget period blood; the ad protagonists don’t even talk about periods. They may sometimes refer to period days as ‘un dinon’ or ‘those days’, or not mention it at all. Whisper’s 2014 ad elaborates this. A girl sits dejectedly, worrying about her upcoming hockey match. Her mother reassures she will win and presents to her Whisper’s special dry-weave top sheet sanitary pads.

Note here that there was absolutely no dialogue between the two about menstruation. The mother, with her special psychic abilities, knew that if her daughter was upset about something, it had to be because she was menstruating. Because what else could it be, right? She can’t be nervous about her hockey match for sure!

One ad that strayed away from the usual template format was Whisper’s ‘Touch the Pickle’ that set out to break a common taboo associated with menstruation. However, it looks like it was the only TV commercial of its kind.

Perhaps Indian ads could start with referring to menstruation directly, without shame or hesitation, and not dehumanise menstrual flow like they do currently. A direct conversation between the mother and daughter, with no use of euphemisms. Maybe they could even involve the brother or father in the dialogue, and stop adolescent girls from being embarrassed about a normal, physiological process they undergo every month.


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Have a Look: Kavita Devi’s Awesome WWE Fight in a Kurti!

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I was introduced to the World Wrestling Federation, which has now been renamed World Wrestling Entertainment (WWE), sometime in the mid-90s. Playing with WWF trump cards was a favourite pastime. Hulk Hogan, The Undertaker, Tatanka, and many other WWF wrestlers had become a household name back then.

To see Indians making a foray into this sport is great. The Great Khali, Jinder Mahal, and now Kavita Devi, a woman from Haryana, who becomes India’s first woman contender, competed in the 32-women’s single elimination tournament.

While her skill set is being discussed, what has caught the attention of millions of spectators of this sport is her unusual attire. Clad in salwar-kameez, Kavita packs a powerful punch.

Packing in a punch.
Photo Source: Facebook

Hailing from Haryana, Kavita underwent training to be a professional wrestler under the guidance of The Great Khali (Dalip Singh Rana) at his Punjab based wrestling promotion and training academy, the Hindustan Times reports.

She shot to fame after her video, in which she wrestled against a woman wrestler named BB Bull Bull, went viral on social media.

Kavita Devi
Photo Source: Facebook

In an interview to Sportskeeda, Kavita speaks about her initiation into the sport. “I loved watching WWE matches, but I never even dreamed about stepping into the ring. One day I was at a local show, and the performer in the ring laid out an open challenge. I raised my hand without thinking, entered the ring and realised I can do this. I used to only watch from afar, until then. After that, the Great Khali took me under his wing, made me work very hard and prepared me for the future.”

Wearing a simple salwar-kameez with a dupatta tied around her waist, this girl is creating quite the buzz.

We, at the Better India, wish her all the best for her future matches.

Photo credits: Facebook

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Interview: Dr Bharati Lavekar, the MLA Who Introduced India’s First Sanitary Pad Bank

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Dr Bharati Lavekar is a sitting MLA from Versova in Mumbai. As a member of the assembly, she has, many times, drawn the attention of fellow legislators towards the unaffordability of sanitary pads by women living in rural areas, those who work for a daily wage, or those who live below the poverty line.

Dr Lavekar established TEE foundation, an NGO based in Mumbai in 2009. This NGO focuses on eradicating and creating awareness about issues like female foeticide, sanitation and hygiene, women’s education and gender inequalities.

The 2011 census statistics was perhaps one of the reasons why Dr. Bharati took up the cause of women even more passionately.

She says, “The sex-ratio in the Beed district stood at a pitiable 801 girls to 1000 boys. In the Shirur-Kasar taluka, it was 733. In Shirur specifically, the ratio was a shocking 669. I had long discussions with the women in these areas to understand and identify the problem.”

Not wanting to merely find short-term solutions, Dr Bharati started spending more time in the area with the local women.

Dr Bharati Lavekar

In 2011, Dr Bharati adopted 120 villages within the Shirur taluka. She says, “To put an end to female foeticide in these areas and also encourage parents to have daughters, we came up with a scheme wherein we would deposit a sum of ₹5000 into the account of the girl child if born post-August 15, 2011.”

This scheme was working, and people in these areas were coming forward to at least find out more.

When the villagers would be asked what they would do when their sons had to be married, they would say that the girl would come from another village. This was the mindset that needed to be changed.

While speaking to The Better India, Dr Bharati mentioned how it took a long time for change to occur but the heartening part was seeing that over a period of a few years, the ratio went up to 921:1000.

In 2014, Dr Bharati contested the elections and won from her constituency. Her winning the seat ensured that the issue of menstruation was brought back to prominence.

MLA Bharati Lavekar

“During a visit to my constituency I heard from a cross-section of women about the various menstruation practices that they followed. I was shocked to hear some women say they use leaves, old ragged dupattas, and dirty discarded napkins even. This was not just an eye-opener for me – but was extremely disturbing.”

She went on to say, “There are statistics to show that only 15 percent of women in India can afford to buy sanitary napkins. This causes severe infections and increases the risk of cervical cancer. Sanitary napkins are essential for menstrual hygiene as 27 percent of women die due to cervical cancer.”

The one-of-its-kind Sanitary Pad Bank was inaugurated on 28 May 2017, which is celebrated as World Menstruation Hygiene Day.

In her constituency – Versova

“Donors can donate either money or sanitary pads. A packet of ten pads cost seven rupees. The foundation will make sure it reaches those in need. This is also one way to overcome the taboo of menstruation,” said Dr Bharati.

The bank provides sanitary napkins to tribal women and non-tribal women. In case a tribal woman wishes to avail the services of this bank she can do so without presenting any identification.

Non-tribal women will have to present their orange ration card to register with the bank. Once registered, they get ten sanitary pads per month. Keeping up with the digital age, women can also register through Facebook and by visiting the office or by making a phone call.

Dr Bharati was also the first MLA to allocate a definite budget to work towards this cause. She was also instrumental in getting sanitary napkin vending and disposable machines in schools and public toilets.

Now that access to sanitary pads has gotten slightly better, her next project is to install sanitary pads disposal machines and educate people about methods of disposing used pads.

Inauguration of the sanitary pad bank

She says, “Sanitary napkins, if not disposed of properly, can create major troubles. If not discarded properly, these sanitary napkins can cause various infections for the sanitation workers and even scavenger animals.”

Making the disposal of sanitary napkins a talking point and including it under the Swachh Bharat Abhiyan is her next step.

If you wish to connect with her, do visit her Facebook page here.

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Meet Jabna Chauhan, India’s Youngest Sarpanch, Whose Fiery Schemes Have Inspired Many!

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It doesn’t matter how old you are, where you come from or what people think about you, your ability is going to be your identity!

Hailing from a small village named Thajun, located in Mandi district of Himachal Pradesh, the now 23-year-old Jabna Chauhan has proved this by becoming the youngest Sarpanch of India.

Jabna Chauhan

The second child of a farmer – Shri Hariya, Jabna was good in academics in her childhood. However, the limited income of her father became a barrier to Jabna’s education after she passed class 12. The father had to raise a visually impaired son and two daughters.

“Our village did not have a degree college, because of which I would have to shift to Mandi to continue my studies. My father always wanted to educate all of his three children, but he was helpless. We could not afford the expenses of the college as well as the hostel at Mandi,” says Jabna.

Eventually, her uncle offered help to continue her education and got her a part-time job in a newspaper to support her expenses. Soon Jabna began travelling to every nook and corner of Mandi to collect news.

Through this experience, she joined a local news channel, ‘Oriental Times’, as a reporter and anchor.

While working as a journalist, she not only tried to focus on the problems of marginalised communities in her village but also made sure that these problems reached the authorities and got solved.

Within a year Jabna was a known person in Mandi, working effectively against gender bias and social atrocities and other women’s issues.

In 2016, when it was time for the Panchayat elections, Jabna was requested by the entire village to file her nomination. Jabna, who was just 22 at the time, was not sure about entering politics. However, she soon realised that this was the opportunity to do something for her village.

“As my elder brother was visually impaired and we were two sisters, most people would tell my father that he should get us married soon. But my father has never differentiated between us. Our parents were poor, but they have always taught us to do good for the society and be brave. When I was confused about fighting the elections, it was my father who fully supported me and gave me the strength to do what was right,” says Jabna.

On 1 January 2016, at the age of 22, Jabna was elected as the Pradhan of Thajun and became the youngest Sarpanch of India.

Jabna was initially sceptical, but now, after one year of her tenure, she believes that if one’s intentions are good, no field is bad for them.

“You need to jump into the sea to clean it, it is impossible to just sit at the shore and wait for the change to happen,” she says.

During her work as a reporter, Jabna had been noticing one major hindrance in the growth of the village – alcoholism!

Most of the men in the village were addicted to alcohol. The women of the house would work all day long on farms or in MGNREGA projects. The men would snatch the money in the evening and spend it on alcohol.

After winning the election, Jabna began to highlight the ill effects of alcohol and tobacco.

She contacted all five Mahila Mandal groups in the Panchayat and even formed a group of local youths – who were connected through a WhatsApp group.

She started conducting meetings and emphasising the role of women and youths in changing the present scenario.

About nine months ago, Jabna led a delegation from Tharjoon Panchayat to submit a memorandum to the Deputy Commissioner for closing liquor vendors in the area.

After this, Jabna started contacting the Panchayat members of surrounding villages and convinced them to start such campaigns in their areas too. After prolonged discussions between the members of the Tharjoon Gram Panchayat and its residents, the Gram Sabha passed a resolution in February this year to ban the sale and consumption of liquor and tobacco products from 1 March 2017.

“It was challenging, but I was determined to stop this nuisance in my village. Men addicted to alcohol would verbally abuse and threat me. But I told them that I am not going to stop! And see…now no one drinks alcohol in public places in our village,” says Jabna with a sense of pride.

The battle started by this young lady has now spread to the surrounding Panchayats of Cheuni, Lambathatch, Baga Chinogi and Sharan – where the consumption of liquor and tobacco is also banned.

In fact, the Gram Sabhas have also banned the serving of liquor in marriages and have decided to impose a fine on those who would violate the rule.

Jabna has also won the district level award of ‘Best Pradhan’ and her Panchayat also stood first in the district in terms of cleanliness.

To achieve this, Jabna used women empowerment. She made a separate WhatsApp group for the village women to talk about cleanliness.

Two dustbins were provided at each house to collect daily waste.The women also made groups and cleaned the village once every 15 days. Toilet waste, which would be flushed in open channels, were covered and separate toilet pits were made.

Domestic waste was gathered in a separate pit while avoiding polythene bags. Cowdung sheds were also made to deposit so that people don’t collect cow dung near their houses.

Jabna, who continues to work as a journalist, also works with her father in their agricultural field and makes her own notes on the needs of the village.

Her efforts have brought street lights, and she says, plans are afoot to get the village paths repaired. Her next step is to get a degree college for her village and start an NGO for women where they can get some additional income.

Jabna looks like a fragile school-going girl, but her persistence and commitment to work would surprise you. She plans her day’s work, interacts with her team and takes decisions with firmness in her voice and sincerity in her efforts.

You can contact Jabna at jabnachauhanmandi@gmail.com


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From War in Sudan to Cholera in Yemen, Dr Kaki Has Faced It All to Save Her Patients

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The clock had struck 3 am. She lay in her makeshift refugee tent in the middle of a dessert in Sub Saharan Africa. The news about armed men robbing refugees and deployed medical personnel spread like wildfire. The zipper on her tent wasn’t working. Anybody could cut it open with a knife and attack her.

The radio that would usually reverberate with news about the outside world in the restrictive space of the tent was switched off, to not attract the attention of the thieves that struck in the dark. Hushed whispers were exchanged, but her tent drowned in pin drop silence. She saw the shadow on the tent wall getting bigger and bigger. The outline of his gun stood in sharp contrast as her heart threatened to leap off her chest.

“I am sure he could hear my heartbeat, just like I could. I shut my eyes for a brief moment, I knew they were close. Suddenly a voice resounded from a distance. When I opened my eyes, they were retreating back. I was safe,” recalls 30-year-old Shiny Kaki – who was on a mission in Sudan as a full time doctor with Médecins Sans Frontières/Doctors Without Borders (MSF).

Hailing from Vijayawada in Andhra Pradesh, Dr Shiny Kaki is no ordinary general physician. Over the last three years, she has served in conflict zones marred with civil wars and helped save civilians wounded in wars and successfully saved lives during epidemic outbreaks.

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Dr. Shiny Kaki

In the last three years, Shiny Kaki has been on successful missions in Nigeria, Sudan, Somalia and Yemen.

After completing her MBBS at CMC College in Vellore at 2009, Shiny dedicated her life to two years of rural service in a leprosy hospital in Allahabad, where her team successfully cured many patients.

“There is a widespread misconception that leprosy is incurable. Especially in Uttar Pradesh where I was practicing, people thought leprosy affected those cursed by the Gods or was a result of past sins. So, the challenge was to educate and spread awareness about the disease.”

As part of her research on leprosy she observed their help-seeking habits. How patients despite noticing symptoms, they wouldn’t openly seek treatment due to prevalent stigma. They wouldn’t come for follow up treatments, or take care of their limbs and sterilise them. They waited until the ulcer got bigger, and needed immediate medical intervention and surgery.

“Leprosy is completely curable,” says Shiny, where the very first dose of anti-bacteria has the power to kill 90% of the bacteria. But the stigma keeps patients from seeking help or acknowledging the disease.

Her Doctors without Borders journey began in September 2013.


Read more: How Doctors, School Students, Rural Women and Army Men Are Working for a Swachh Bharat


What is Doctors Without Borders?

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Doctors Without Borders/Médecins Sans Frontières (MSF) is an independent international humanitarian organisation that delivers emergency medical aid to people affected by armed conflict, epidemics, natural and manmade disasters or exclusion from health care in more than 60 countries with over 3,000 doctors, nurses, logisticians, water-and-sanitation experts, administrators and other professionals to work alongside over 25,000 locally hired staff.

Expressing the reason behind her decision to join the organisation, she says, “Doctors without Borders had always attracted my attention. I admired doctors who served across borders risking their own lives.”

One night, when she was watching a movie, she decided to go on to the website and apply. A couple of days later, she got through the scheduled interview, and even cleared the next round in Delhi!

“When I look back, one of the major incidents that prompted me to apply was the death of one of my cousins in a car crash. I was in depression for three months and refused to come out of my room. I was in so much grief, that I didn’t know why I made the impulsive decision. All I knew was, I had to apply,” she says.

While Shiny thought she would do only one one mission and return to complete her PG programme and get a mainstream job, three years later, she’s still serving with Doctors without Borders.

“It’s a very addictive job!” exclaims Shiny.


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Her first project was at Warder located at the border between Ethiopia and Somalia, a civil-conflict zone where the sound of crossfire was deafening. Even though weapons were not allowed in the hospital, militants and little children holding guns was a common sight.

Knowing the medical personnel had no political leanings and were only there to save lives, they did not hurt them. Working in the emergency room, HIV and TB ward and paediatric ward, she witnessed how residents were caught in the crossfire between the Ethiopian army and the Somalian police.

Later she went to a refugee camp in South Sudan where basic medical services – like maternity – were lacking.

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A refugee mother with her kid in Uganda: the largest refugee hosting country in Africa. Source: MSF

In Yemen, the civil war, that began in 2015 continues to have grave consequences with a severe decline in sanitation, absence of clean food, safe drinking water and medical supplies. This led to an outbreak of cholera in the region. Shiny was posted at one of the frontline cholera treatment centres.

In sharp contrast, Maiduguri in Nigeria, where she served, suffered from rising cases of Under 5 mortality. Hundreds of children were were losing their lives due to malnutrition.

Did she ever step back and reconsider her decision of joining MFS? When you are living in a refugee tent in the middle of a dessert in Sub Saharan Africa there are various complications!

She did.

“I would think about the comfort of my home sometimes. There have been cases where doctors have been kidnapped, MSF staff have been targeted and kidnapped. But daily challenges include the scorching heat. The sun burns your skin, it doesn’t tan it. It literally turns pink and can be a painful ordeal to touch. The hard water is your last resort to wash the grime in your hair.”

Shedding light on work challenges, she expresses how local staff at the camp, mostly men, refused to follow her orders or corrections while handling patients because she was young, and a woman.

“It’s hard to be hated. Everybody is speaking behind your back and there’s absolutely nobody rallying behind you. There were times when I wanted to take action against the Ministry of Health employees, but I was told to be lenient. Look my loyalty lies with my patient first, not the staff, and I stood my ground fearlessly.”

Even today when she’s out on a mission, the colour drains off her dear ones’ faces. But onward she marches to a new place on a new day to save lives.

In her message to young women she says, “You are as progressive as you make your environment to be. Do not shut up and go through life, thinking you are a woman. Push back and challenge circumstances. Get into conflict and don’t be afraid of confrontation. Let your voice be heard. Don’t be dread authority. When you know you are right, it shouldn’t matter what the consequences are.”

You can connect to Shiny Kaki at shinykaki@gmailcom.

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How One Woman Left Everything to Stop Tribal Girls From Being Trafficked in Jharkhand!

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Five years ago, Rashmi Tiwari recalls entering a small tribal home in Orissa, as part of a social welfare funding project for CEO Clubs, India. The ground reality of the red corridor in the country shook her to the core.

She stared in absolute horror, as parents of minor girls as young as 5-6 years old, offered them to her in exchange of money.

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While one home had three grown up girls sharing one set of clean clothes, most daily wage laborers struggled to have two meals a day. This marked the watershed moment of her life.

“Minor girls were being pushed into the web of trafficking and nobody was bothered. I was witnessing the worst kind of human rights violation on the ground of my own country.”

Returning to Delhi, she decided to quit her corporate job and luxurious life to visit tribal areas of India in an attempt to understand the extent of trafficking and empower tribal girls and women.

Who is Dr Rashmi Tiwari?

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Dr Rashmi Tiwari (centre)

Rashmi was only nine when she was pushed out of the comfort of her Mumbai home with her single mother. There was no roof over her head and certainly no source of income for her uneducated mother. Enrolled at Saraswati Uchchatar Kanya Vidyalaya in Varanasi at 10 years old, there was never enough money to buy school uniform or books or lunch.

It was a common to see a young Rashmi break into Amitabh Bachchan’s Aaj Rapat Jaayein or mimic him to entertain the senior girls, who lent their old belongings to her. She’d work at the soap factory as a child labourer after school. Living out of a 3.5 x 5.5 m box room in Varanasi, she completed her Masters and earned her PhD degree in Economics from Banaras Hindu University in 1998-99. She then established herself in the corporate world.

Human trafficking v/s Sex trafficking

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At the Anti-trafficking chat sessions.

How many times have you witnessed a neighbor or a friend calling out to a choti in their homes to get you a glass of water or feed the toddler, and you did not bat an eyelid?

While ‘sex trafficking’ draws a sharp response from most people, human trafficking as modern day slavery – by hiring underage girls as child laborers or domestic helps – easily disguises itself as a socially accepted norm, says Rashmi.

“The demand and supply for these underage girls are not only in tribal areas but also the leading metros. In fact, city dwellers create the demand. Unknowingly and unintentionally, we are all contributing to it. Every time you hire a tribal underage girl from an agency as a house-help, even if you don’t abuse her. Or buy products and services that involve child labor and bonded labor, you are partaking in this grave human rights violation.”

She lays down hard-hitting facts that state India is one of the top five countries in the Global Slavery Index. Large tribal populations, on the brink of extinction in the red corridors of India, become breeding grounds for trafficking.

Similar problems exist in the state of Jharkhand, notorious for Naxal activities, where Rashmi’s Aahan Tribal Development Foundation works for the upliftment of tribal women and girls.

Stating the sociocultural context in these areas Rashmi expresses how generations of debt and bonded labor in tribal families make vulnerable girl children easy victims. Very often, these innocent girls are offered to the traffickers by the parents themselves. Or sometimes traffickers lure the parents and the girls with the dreams of a better life and job opportunities.

Over 40% of these girls disappear without any trace. Even if they escape, going back to the villages without making money for the agent is never an option. Threats, physical abuse, starvation and multiple sexual assaults by several men several times a day are common practices to make them comply, surrender and suppress their voice.

These girls don’t live to dream, they dream to live.


Read more: From War in Sudan to Cholera in Yemen, Dr Kaki Has Faced It All to Save Her Patients


Aahan Tribal Development Foundation

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Speaking about the vision and mission of Aahan Foundation, Rashmi says, “I wanted a sunrise for these girls as a result of their own collective efforts, not a result of anybody’s charity.

Aahan‘ refers to a new dawn.

Shedding light on the many challenges that she had to face while starting her work Rashmi shares, “I had never been to Jharkhand before. I had no funds, no resources and zero experience of working at the grassroots level in the social sector.”

On her first visit to a tribal village in Jharkhand, she thought of the most unconventional way of getting women and young girls to open up to her. She lured them by samosas and gulab jamuns and showed them anti-trafficking films on her laptop. Initially reluctant, the turnout started improving.

Most fathers, uncles, brothers and even traffickers started attending these chats who mistook Rashmi for an organised trafficker, who would lure the mothers along with the girls this time without paying them a penny.

Little did they know, she was here to disturb their entire system and train these girls to fight for their own rights. Slowly, she started gaining the trust by interacting with the women Sarpanch and members of the self-help groups, who enjoyed great respect among tribals. It helped her in breaking the ice and take tribals into her confidence.

But it was a huge challenge to convince women and young girls to live their lives on their own terms.

“The constant fear of getting trafficked locked them in a cage that dictated that they had to earn enough money to feed their families.What was needed was a behavioral shift,” says Rashmi.

But now Rashmi had already come under the radar of the traffickers, local leaders and politicians who threatened to hurt her if she did not back down. She recalls an incident when she was on the brink of being kidnapped by Naxalites and was allowed to escape because locals intervened. That did not stop them from hitting her and threatening her to return to the city.

It’s been over 3 years, her projects are still working successfully in over 50 villages reaching out to over 5000 women and girls.

Impact

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Aahan Foundation started in 2013, provides vocational training to girls and women in sales, marketing, sports, performing arts and arts. To prevent trafficking and promote holistic growth, they run Aahan Fellowship for Tribal Girls and Women, a year long leadership program, Udaan a week long program to get selected tribal girls and women to New Delhi to meet with leaders political, social and business areas, Village Level Mentoring Programs and Global Tribal Mentoring Walks.

Today members of the Aahan family are successfully working as corporates, nurses, teachers, panchayat leaders, mason and builders, professional football players, and constructing toilets as social workers.

As a Rupanti Munda dons an Indian Jersey at the Homeless Cup, a 14-year-old Rupni Barla speaks at TEDx about bouncing back strongly and representing India in Marathon runs across the globe. Aarti Munda saves the dying Madhubani and Surahi art on women’s issues and now wants to start an art and culture school in her village.

Biresh Devi who struggled as a child bride, now works as a pink auto driver in Jharkhand.

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With Biresh & other pink-auto drivers

Rashmi talks about her biggest experiential learning saying, “You don’t need a lot of money or too many people to drive change. We had resources, no experience, and no business model. It’s been over three years and we have sustained our activities without any major funding. We focus on impact sheets than excel sheets. One needs to measure how much change is one bringing in the lives and mindsets of tribal girls and women. I am not discounting the need of money, but revolutionary ideas do not ride waves of change based on the rationale of money.”

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It’s What Beneath the Skin That Counts: Acid Attack Survivors Who Never Backed Down

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Before 2013, the Indian criminal law did not even identify acid attacks as a separate offence. In 2014, 225 acid attack cases were recorded in India, which means they doubled compared to 2013 (116) and 1012 (106).

The latest statistics show that in 2015, 249 such cases were recorded, which is the highest so far. Hence, there is reason to believe that there has been a steep rise in such crimes.

When UK-based Resham Khan turned 21 in June this year, she was attacked with acid on her face by a stranger.

Recently, she shared images of her amazing recovery on Twitter for which she made news both in India and internationally.

One of the images Resham shared on Twitter

But Resham had to bear the brunt of trolls as well. Negative tweets by users calling her names or accusing her of doing this for publicity made it worse, which compelled Resham to write a blog post explaining how the focus should’ve been on what was beneath her skin and not otherwise.

Meanwhile, she admitted that although it was layers of makeup hiding her scars, the point was that she survived the attack and came out strong.

“I’ve felt my skin burn with acid. You can’t hurt me,” she tweeted in response to the hate.

This is why it gets important to share stories of acid attack survivors who braved the hate and didn’t hide their scars.

Laxmi Agarwal was only 15 when she was attacked in 2005 by a jilted lover and his companion. Her face and some body parts were disfigured due to the attack. Besides compensation, she filed a PIL in the Supreme Court that a new law be framed, or the existing ones are amended. This was when her career as a campaigner with ‘Stop Acid Attacks’ took off, and she became the voice of survivors the world over.

Monica Singh had dreams of becoming a fashion designer. In 2005, when she was 19-years-old, her neighbour hired someone to throw acid on her after she refused to elope and get married to him.

But that didn’t stop her from finishing what she had set out to do.

Monica Singh. Source: Instagram

Not only does she use fashion to empower survivors, but she has also started a Mahendra Singh Foundation to help end this global issue.

In 2012, a cousin threw acid on Lalita Benbansi when she was visiting her hometown in Uttar Pradesh, just 15 days before her wedding. Lalita had to undergo 17 surgeries after the attack. But recently, Lalita found love in man behind a wrong number. She tied the knot with a 27-year-old man, who accidentally dialled her number one day, which got the two talking and eventually married.

Reshma Qureshi was 17 when she was attacked with sulfuric acid by her brother-in-law and two assailants. The attack was actually aimed at her sister, but Reshma was mistaken for her.

After a long time spent with suicidal thoughts, Reshma came out strong and became the face of the Make Love Not Scars campaign. This began her modelling career, and Reshma also started beauty tutorials online.

When Archana was 18, her neighbour would repeatedly harass her to marry him. After she ignored him and his death threats to her father, he threw acid on her face. She was taken to the hospital a shocking six hours after the attack, by which time her face had become completely disfigured.

She had 40 surgeries performed on her.

Archana’s image shared by Humans of Bombay’s Facebook page.

Archana let this incident inspire her, and joined the Make Love Not Scars campaign. She finished her studies, completed a Computer (basic) class and became an experienced front desk staff member.

She was also featured on the Humans of Bombay Facebook page.

Mamta is another acid attack survivor part of the campaign. Mamta had refused to bear a child with her abusive husband, and when she decided to move out of his house, he attacked her with acid. Mamta is now a trained beauty therapist, make-up artist, hair stylist and has been employed in various beauty salons.

In 1999, Haseena Hussain’s attacker, who was her boss, threw acid on her for refusing to marry him after she had left her job in his office. The hospital refused to treat her unless Rs 1 lakh was deposited. She was only treated after three days, and by then she had suffered 70 percent burns – and lost her eyesight. Despite that, Haseena decided to join Enable India instead of sitting at home. There she was taught computer and other skills. Today she provides for her family and does work without anyone’s help.

The list of survivors is long, and so are their accomplishments after the attack. To each and every one of them, we here at The Better India, send our best wishes.

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#FreeThePeriod: 14 Myths That Prove Indian Boys and Men Need the ‘Period Talk’

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Dear Women,

How many times have you heard a co-worker react to your outburst by asking, “Is it that time of the month again?” and controlled the urge to snap back?

Or you were simply about to enter a place of worship and saw a board that said, “Women on menstrual cycles not allowed?”

Despite the fact that it’s 2017 and ISRO has launched 104 satellites in a single flight, the taboos and myths surrounding menstruation in the country have not seen a drastic change.

The Better India spoke to a few men to gauge the craziest myths they have grown up with.

While we certainly don’t wish to generalise these myths as a reflection of the beliefs of the greater majority, these 14 instances, prove why India needs to have the ‘period talk’ with young boys and men.

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    1. “Women tend to be unproductive at work when they’re chumming, but a lot of women continue to work (at office or in their respective jobs) fine on their periods.”
      – a 23-year old trainee journalist from Mumbai
    2. “PMS is not real. Women only use menstruation as an excuse to shield their irritation and win fights.” – a 20-year-old photographer.
    3. “A woman is impure when she is menstruating. She shouldn’t enter religious places to offer prayers.” – a 34-year-old technician
    4. “As kids we’d play a game where boys would try to easily identify a girl on her periods, by analysing the way they walk. I used to think girls walked with their legs spread slightly apart whilst on their period.” – 21-year-old student.
    5. “Our mothers grew up with period cramps and never cribbed about them. Period pain is ‘just like’ any other pain you’ve experienced. Why should women be allowed leaves on first day of their period?” – 37-year-old electrician.
    6. “I have heard that period blood is just dirty blood that is released from a woman’s body and it smells awful.” – 18-year-old student.

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7. Hilarious taboos around tampons:
“Using a tampon makes a girl lose her virginity”
“How does a tampon fit up there? Isn’t it like a few inches long?”
“Do you use a plier of tweezers to pull a tampon out?”
“You can’t pee with your tampon on.”

8. “Women on their period will contaminate food, if they touch it. They should avoid going into kitchen, shouldn’t cook and certainly not touch milk or newly made pickles.

9. Things women should do on their periods: shouldn’t exercise, shouldn’t washing their hair, certainly not swim.

10. “I have read somewhere that showering while on your period causes infertility.” – 30-year old BPO employee.

11. “Pads shouldn’t be disposed in the same bins we use otherwise at home and need to be kept unseen and hidden.” – a 26-year-old photojournalist.

12. A certain tweet read “Women shouldn’t eat ice or cold things on their period, as it would cause the flow to get cold and chunky.”

13. “I thought a girl’s period flow had something to do with their fluid intake. So, every time my sister complained about cramps due to a heavy flow, I’d tell her to not drink too many fluids.” – a 32-year-old sales executive.

14. “I always wondered how pregnant women went through the whole ordeal of 9 months whilst on their period. Little did I know until I grew up, women don’t bleed while pregnant.” – 24-year-old Business Development employee.


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Watch: What Do Men in Bengaluru Think About Periods? We Found out! #FreeThePeriod

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What do men think about menstruation? We caught them off-guard on the streets of Bengaluru to find an answer. From the first thing that comes to mind when they hear the word ‘Periods’ to the first time they came to know about periods — here’s all they had to say.


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The Forgotten Story of Rani Abbaka Chowta, the Fearless Warrior Queen of Tulu Nadu

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In Dakshina Kannada’s Bantwal taluk, a historian has erected a museum in the memory of a 16th-century warrior queen. The man behind the museum, called Tulu Baduku Museum, is Prof. Thukaram Poojary and his subject is Rani Abbakka Chowta of Ullal.

The only woman in history to confront, fight and repeatedly defeat the Portuguese, Rani Abbakka’s unflagging courage and indomitable spirit are at par with the legendary Rani Laxmi Bai of Jhansi, Rani Rudramma Devi of Warangal and Rani Chennamma of Kittur. Yet, little is written about her or her incredible story in the history books.

Here’s the untold story of Rani Abbakka Chowta, the valiant queen of Ullal.

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Since the 7th century, maritime trade (in spices, textiles, war horses etc) had flourished between the communities of India’s western coast and the Arabian Peninsula. With an eye on this lucrative trade, several European powers had been trying to discover the sea route to India. The Portuguese finally became the first Europeans to find a sea route to India when Vasco Da Gama reached Calicut in 1498 after a long voyage.

Five years later, the Portuguese built their first fort at Cochin. This was followed by the establishment of a ring of forts in the Indian Ocean region – in India, Muscat, Mozambique, Sri Lanka, Indonesia, even as far as Macau in China. This, along with its superior naval technology, put the control of all the spice routes to India into the hands of the Portuguese within twenty years of Da Gama’s historic voyage.

This, along with its superior naval technology, put the control of all the spice routes to India into the hands of the Portuguese within twenty years of Da Gama’s historic voyage.

For the whole of the 16th century, Portuguese dominance in the region remains unchallenged by any other European power (the Dutch, the French and the British reached India only at the start of the 17th century).

Trading in the Indian Ocean, which had hitherto been a free trade zone for Indian, Arab, Persian and African ships, now required a paid permit (cartaz) from the Portuguese. The naval superiority of the Portuguese meant that they invariably won against local rulers who rebelled.

In 1526, the Portuguese captured the Mangalore port. Their next target was Ullal, a thriving port town that lay nestled between the verdant peaks of the Western Ghats and the cerulean blue waters of the Arabian Sea.

Life Size Statue of the Chowta Queen Abbakka in Ullal

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Ullal was the capital of the Chowta king Thirumala Raya III. Feudatories of the Vijayanagar kingdom, the Chowtas were Jain kings who had originally migrated to Tulu Nadu (a province consisting of present-day Dakshina Kannada district of Karnataka, portions of Udupi and Kasargod district in Kerala) from Gujarat in the 12th century.

As the Chowtas were a matrilineal dynasty, the king’s heir was his young niece, Abbakka. The fiercely independent princess had been trained in sword fighting, archery, cavalry, military strategy, diplomacy and all other subjects of statecraft from a very young age. As such, when Abbakka was crowned the Queen of Ullal, she was deeply aware of the threat posed by the Portuguese presence on the coast and equally determined to resist it with all she had.

As such, when Abbakka was crowned the Queen of Ullal, she was deeply aware of the threat posed by the Portuguese presence on the coast and equally determined to resist it with all she had.

Before his death, Thirumala Raya III had arranged a strategic marriage alliance for Abbakka with Lakshmappa Bangaraja, the ruler of Mangalore. As the ruler of Ullal, Rani Abbakka continued to live in her own home even after marriage and the couple’s three children stayed with her. However, the marriage broke down when Bangaraja compromised with the Portuguese.

With an eye on Ullal’s trade (that had flourished under the Queen’s able leadership), the Portuguese had been trying to exact tributes and taxes from Rani Abbakka. Incensed and exasperated at the unfair demands, she refused to accede to the Portuguese demands. Her ships continued to trade with the Arabs despite attacks by the Portuguese. From Mogaveeras and Billava archers to Mappilah oars men, people of all castes and religions found a place in her army and navy.

Her ships continued to trade with the Arabs despite attacks by the Portuguese. From Mogaveeras and Billava archers to Mappilah oars men, people of all castes and religions found a place in her army and navy.

The remnants of Rani Abbakka’s fort at Ullal

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Infuriated by her effrontery, the Portuguese began attacking Ullal repeatedly.The first battle took place in the year 1556, with the Portuguese fleet being commanded by Admiral Don Alvaro de Silveira, and ended in an uneasy truce.

Two years later, the Portuguese attacked with a larger force and were able to ransack the settlement at Ullal to some extent. However, Rani Abbakka’s masterful battle tactics and diplomatic strategy (she collaborated with Arab Moors and Zamorin of Kozhikode) pushed them back once again.

During the next battle, the Portuguese army under General Joao Peixoto attacked Ullal and managed to capture the royal palace. However, Rani Abbakka escaped before they could capture her.

Along with 200 loyal soldiers, she raided the Portuguese in the dead of night and killed the general along with 70 of his soldiers. Frightened by the ferocity of the attack, the remaining Portuguese troops fled to their ships

By this time, the Portuguese had become alarmed about Rani Abbakka’s growing reputation inspiring other rulers. When repeated frontal attacks didn’t work, they resorted to treachery. A series of edicts were passed to make any alliance with the defiant queen illegal. Her husband, Bangaraja of Mangalore, was also warned against sending any aid to Ullal under the threat of burning his capital.

Yet, Rani Abbakka continued to dismiss these rulings with contempt and scorn. The stunned Portuguese now decided to send Anthony D’ Noronha (the Portuguese Viceroy of Goa) to attack Ullal. In 1851, 3000 Portuguese troops supported by an armada of battleships attacked Ullal in a surprise pre-dawn attack.

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Rani Abbakka was returning from a visit to her family temple and was caught off guard but she immediately mounted her horse and rode into the battle, leading her troops in a fierce counter-offensive.

Her piercing battle cry – “Save the motherland. Fight them on land and the sea. Fight them on the streets and the beaches. Push them back to the waters.” echoed through winds as she and her soldiers fired flaming arrows at the Portuguese ships.

Fight them on the streets and the beaches. Push them back to the waters.” echoed through winds as she and her soldiers fired flaming arrows at the Portuguese ships.

While many of the ships in the Portuguese armada burnt that night, Rani Abbakka was wounded in the crossfire and was captured by the enemy with the help of a few bribed chieftains. Rebellious till the very end, the fearless queen breathed her last in captivity. However, her legacy lived on through her equally fierce and brave daughters who continued to defend Tulu Nadu from the Portuguese.

A warrior queen who gave her life in defence of her freedom and motherland, Rani Abbakka remained a major thorn in the Portuguese’ side throughout her rule despite their superior military power. This itself speaks volumes about her courage and ingenuity. Yet her splendid story remains largely forgotten by history books.

The good news is that the legendary queen of Ullal continues to live on in the folk culture of the Dakshin Kannada region (through Bhuta Kola and Yakshagana). In the recent years, her story has been gradually coming to public attention.

Dakshin Kannada has been holding an annual celebration in her memory (Veera Rani Abbakka Utsava) for the last few years.

In 2003, Indian Post issued a special stamp dedicated to Rani Abbakka while in 2015, the Indian Navy acknowledged her naval heroics by naming a patrol vessel after her.

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And there is also Tulu Baduku museum in Bantwal that displays around 3000 artefacts collected from dusty family attics by Poojary over a period of 20 years. Asked what motivated him to do so, Prof. Poojary explained to DNA,

“As a person who has made a career out of teaching history, I cannot allow an important freedom fighter to be forgotten just like that. Let the generations of future historians derive inspiration from it and dwell deep into Rani Abbakka’s life.”

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#FreeThePeriod: Had the Period Talk with Your Daughter and Son Yet? Here’s How You Can

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Hide them in layers of black and brown. Whisper ‘can I borrow one’ to your colleagues so no one can hear. Skip work and tell them you’re under the weather. Say you’re ‘down’ or ‘on the rag’, but don’t say the word. Period.

Ask any woman, and she will tell you how confusing, embarrassing and scary it was to get her first period. Thanks to awkward parents and sub par education in schools, most girls never get the period talk before they start menstruating.

And the consequence? They hide it like it’s an abomination best left unuttered.

This is why there needs to be a straightforward, honest and respectful interaction between parents and children – both boys and girls – about menstruation.

And this should happen before the girls get their period.

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An open conversation starts with explaining what periods are and what the girls should expect. Tell them you can be approached whenever their period starts, so they’re not left to deal with it alone. Make sure you’re the first one they come and talk to.

It’s also highly likely that your daughter will be in school when she gets her first period. Tell her not to panic and inform the teacher when that happens.

Keep it casual. They need to believe it’s normal to talk about it, especially the boys. Ask them what they already know, and explain further. Clear their doubts.

Introduce them to menstrual products. There are enough and more TV advertisements they’re exposed to. So, if they’re growing up thinking period blood is blue, now’s the time to tell them.


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You could also talk to them about your first period. Tell them they’ll experience cramps too, and that it’s normal. Anything they go through that you didn’t, is also normal. Menstruation is different for everyone.

At the same time, don’t tell them to do what worked for you. Introduce them to all kinds of period products and let them choose what works best for them – cups, tampons, sanitary napkins or even contraceptive methods.

Most importantly, bust their myths. Tell boys it’s not okay to feel shy or embarrassed to talk about periods, even though they’ll never experience it. Tell them it’s a biological process, which can be sometimes uncomfortable and painful for girls who experience it. But it’s nothing to be ashamed of. It’s not ‘dirty’ or ‘gross’.

Involve the dads. No reason they shouldn’t have the period talk with their daughter or son.

Kids will have doubts, but if they have parents who are approachable and whom they feel comfortable talking to, they will grow that much better.

So, get over the weirdness and have that talk.


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The Untold Story of India’s Leading Woman Sailor, Dr Rohini Rau!

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When Rohini Rau decided to take up competitive sailing, it wasn’t just the unfavourable winds she was up against. It was one girl vs a world of naysayers who thought women couldn’t & shouldn’t sail.

But that didn’t stop Rau. At 31, apart from being a renowned national and international champion sailor, she is also a successful doctor, a TED fellow for life and the Vice Curator of the Chennai Hub of Global Shapers Community.

Apart from four international medals, Rohini Rau has sailed over nine world championships and clinched 30 odd gold medals. She is a three-time consecutive national gold medallist in the women’s category.

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The Beginning

Imagine being in the middle of the ocean all by yourself at age 10! But the wind on her sails stayed behind her, thanks to her mother.

“Sailing has been a part of my system right from the start. My mother, who studied Marine Biology at the University of Portsmouth, UK, was the only one in the family who knew about sailing. When she came to Chennai from Calcutta, she was enthralled by the century old Royal Madras Yacht Club, credited to be the first sailing Club in the South of India. She would take me sailing from the time she was pregnant. So, I was on a boat right from the age of one,” Rohini says.

Rohini only started competing at the age of 10, when her mother enrolled her in a summer coaching camp. The coach at the camp encouraged her to compete in a sailing championship in Mumbai.

She went down to Mumbai with the rest of the team to compete in her first ever national sailing championship competition at 11. It was the first taste of defeat for a young Rohini. Competing with four girls, she secured the last place.

“I came last, but I told everybody that I came fourth, to save face,” laughs Rohini.

Every weekend after that competition was all about sailing for these young weekend sailors. Until the age of 15, while other sailors sailed in the boat meant for the junior level called the Optimist, Rohini at 14, had become too big for the vessel.

She started sailing in the 420-class which also helped her taste her first & biggest success at the Asian Championship in Mumbai in 2004.

In Class 12, with her partner, Pallavi Naik, from Goa, Rohini clinched India’s first ever gold medal in an international competition.

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“It was the defining moment of my life. Hearing the national anthem play, sleeping with our gold medals, waking up with it. It felt surreal.”

Little did she think about her board exams that were only three months away. Her school refused to let her sit for the board exam because she failed her prelims in Math.

“They wanted a cent percent reason. But I pleaded and begged. I worked hard and managed to secure 86%. Looking back down the years, I am the only person from my entire batch who went to med school.”

Medicine was never a passion or dream for Rohini, unlike her mother and grandmother who wanted to pursue it but couldn’t. It was on this car drive from Mahabalipuram back home that her parents helped her list down things she enjoyed.

Biology, people and travel, were some of them. She enrolled in BSc Psychology, thinking she wouldn’t get through med school because there was no way, her parents were going to pay for a seat. But she tried her luck through the Sports quota for medicine.

“That year there were 1800 applicants. Only three could make it through the sports quota for medicine, while the rest would get placed in top engineering colleges. I was sure I did not want to do engineering. People thought I was cocky and stupid for not having applied for both.”

It was the first time sailing was included in the sports quota. She was in for a shock when she made it to the third seat for medicine!

Medicine Vs Sailing

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Once she got into med school, she was coerced to quit sailing and concentrate on medicine.

“I couldn’t for the life of me understand the logic behind it. I got into a med school through the sports quota. I assumed I was going to continue sailing,” she says.

These statements strengthened her resolve to stand her ground. “When everybody told me I couldn’t do it or I shouldn’t do it, it pushed me to show them that I could. I took part in almost seven championships in my first year.”

She lived in a hostel all the way in Chengalpattu, an hour and a half away from Chennai. She would travel three hours a day in the train to sail.

Pursuing medicine while sailing came with its own set of challenges. The World Championships clashed with her her first-year final exams. The dean called her parents to have a word.

“Instead of complaining about me, he shared that he was a boxer in his youth. He knew the life span of a sportsperson. He told me, “You can study at any point in time. But you only have a small age bracket for sports. And it is nothing short of an honour to represent your country,’” she says.

He encouraged her to go for the world championships.

It is such key people in her life that she extends her gratitude to.

Studying in a government college meant no grace marks or concessions, even if she was the only person juggling international sailing competitions and medicine.

“Every time I took time off for championships, I had to come back and write my exams six months later. I studied five months more than my classmates every time I missed college.” That’s what took Rohini almost three and a half years longer to finish her MBBS.


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Why did she stop sailing?

The lowest phase in Rohini’s life was during 2012. She refuses to paint a rosy picture of her struggles as a woman on the seas.

“I was the only civilian woman sailor competing with army and navy men who dominate the sport. I did not think of it as a disadvantage, in terms of racing. What I was at loggerheads with, was old people sitting in committees deciding who gets to represent the country at competitions. Who would chose a civilian over an army official?” she questions.

There were times when they questioned nominating her, thinking she would quit sailing at any point, either to pursue medicine or get married.

“I would be training for a competition and the day before I was set to leave, they would tell me my name was not sent in. I kept quiet several times because I needed their support until the Olympics. When I made it to the Qualifiers of the Olympic games, they didn’t send my name in for the finals.”

She hit rock bottom when two years of hard work fell like a pack of cards. But she knew nobody could take her medical degree away. She decided to return and complete her degree.

Rohini may have stopped sailing competitively in 2012, but several things in the same year pulled her out of the depression she could have gone heavily into. She moved forward with every setback.

She became a TED fellow in 2009. Her TED journey helped her collaborate with other TED fellows and marked a new chapter of her life – a successful medical career.

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Will she ever return to sailing?

Having competed for over 15 years, Rohini says it’s hard to remove the element of competitiveness while she is in the waters. “Sometimes I do feel it’s going to hit me hard enough, and I might consider going back to sailing. But at this point, I think I have been hurt too much for me to get back to it.”

Stating the simplest challenges that women sailors face, she says, “It’s a male dominated sport, there aren’t enough women to support you. Many girls sail till the age of 25, but leave it eventually.”

Sometimes, parents do not let their daughters sail because they get tanned and then wouldn’t fit ‘suitable’ matches.

“It’s an adventure sport; you get cuts and bruises. I once dislocated my elbow hitting a part of the boat. It is injury-prone. But support from parents and partners can be a huge boost,” says Rohini.

Last but not the least, sailing is a very expensive sport that needs a strong financial backing, she says.

“By no means am I going to sugarcoat it. Nobody told me, it was going to be easy. But I gave my passion, my all. You can do it too. But understand that it’s going to hard. It is only when you chase your dreams with a burning passion, that you will go to the ends of the earth and make it happen,” she concludes.

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What Is the Future of Surrogacy in India? We Discuss All Sides of the Issue

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With a view to regulate surrogacy practices in India and to protect the interests of surrogates, The Surrogacy (Regulation) Bill was introduced in the Lok Sabha in November 2016. The Bill was sent to the Parliamentary Standing Committee on Health and Family Welfare for review.

Meanwhile, Maadhyam undertook a stakeholder engagement exercise and invited views from citizens, to gain the perspective of Surrogate and Commissioning Parents. The responses were shared with the Committee. After months of deliberations, they have finally come up with their report, which comprehensively addressed many concerns raised by stakeholders.

In this two part series, we detail the report from various perspectives.

 

On Altruistic surrogacy:

The Bill allowed only altruistic surrogacy – where surrogate mothers undertake surrogacy on grounds of love and compassion without expecting any monetary benefit in return. They are entitled to only medical expenses and an insurance cover. The Bill completely prohibited commercial surrogacy.

Stakeholder responses –

In the engagement undertaken by Maadhyam, stakeholders were asked for their views on whether it was justified to allow only altruistic surrogacy.

Nearly 53% of the respondents replied in the negative

The main reasons cited by the respondents was that this would amount to a loss of livelihood for women. Also, they highlighted how a commercial contract is better suited to protect the rights of all parties involved since it is legally enforceable.

It was also suggested that a regulatory body should put in place as a safeguard.

Committee’s observations – 

The report states,

The Committee is of the view that altruistic surrogacy is another extreme and entails high expectations from a woman willing to become a surrogate without any compensation or reward but a decision based on noble intentions and kindness.’.

Further observations included:

  1. Altruistic surrogacy could be more exploitative than commercial surrogacy for women in the prevailing patriarchal structure of society.
  2. It is grossly unfair and arbitrary to prevent women from being paid for their reproductive labour and expecting them to provide it for free.
  3. Pregnancy is to be considered a period of nine-month labour with far reaching implications for the health, time and family of the surrogate. Altruistic arrangements do not provide any support to the surrogate.

Recommendations:

It was recommended that commercial surrogacy should be regulated through a comprehensive compensation policy.

After taking into account the views of women who had undertaken commercial surrogacy, the Committee noted that it was seen as a means by women to economically uplift themselves and their families when other economic options were more exploitative and far less remunerative.

The Committee is, therefore, of the view that economic opportunities available to surrogates through surrogacy services should not be dismissed in a paternalistic manner.

It was also added that:

  1. A surrogate mother should be adequately and reasonably compensated and the compensation should be commensurate with all the costs she bears. This should include expenses related to post delivery care and child care support. Her kin should be compensated in case of her death during pregnancy or childbirth.
  2. The quantum of compensation should be fixed by a relevant authority, and not by the parties depending upon their respective bargaining power, in order to safeguard the interests of the surrogate and to protect her from exploitation.

Eligibility conditions for surrogates:

As per the Bill, the woman acting as a surrogate must be:

  1. A ‘close relative’ of the intending couple
  2. Between 25 to 35 years old.
  3. Married and have a child of her own

Further, she can act as a surrogate only once in her lifetime.

Stakeholder responses received by Maadhyam

The respondents were requested to reflect on the proposition that only a ‘close relative’, a term which was not even defined in the Bill, be allowed to be a surrogate and a large majority responded in the negative.

Many reasons were provided by the respondents for not supporting this provision – there is a real threat that women can be forced to undertake surrogacy for their relatives and that too without any compensation; it is likely to lead to family disputes in the future and could negatively affect the emotional and mental well-being of the child.

Committee’s recommendations

Close relative

The report recommends for removal of close relative requirement after making following observations:

  1. The consent of the surrogate may be obtained through coercion and exploitation due to family pressures.
  2. The child and the surrogate may develop an emotional bond due to proximity, which may lead to emotional turmoil for all.
  3. Issues relating to parentage, custody, inheritance and property disputes within the family may arise.

Age & Marital status

The Committee recommends raising the upper age limit from 35 years to 39 years. However, it remains silent on the issue of the marital status of the surrogate, i.e. whether single women can also be allowed to be a surrogate.

But when asked by Maadhyam that whether only married women should be allowed to act as surrogates, around 93% of responses were in negative. For stakeholders, it was a matter of independent choice depending upon physical, mental and psychological health of the surrogate and not her marital status.

Number of times a woman can act as surrogate

The report upholds that a woman should undergo surrogacy only once in her lifetime, considering the risks and complications involved.

It asserts that surrogacy should not become a profession.

However, in case of abortion, it recommends for a clear provision in the Bill to allow the woman to be a surrogate for the second time.

In the next part of the series, we take a look at how, despite many progressive recommendations, the report also takes a regressive stand on certain matters like not allowing single persons or members of the LGBTQ community to opt for surrogacy.

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How Rupanti Munda Fought Naxal Attacks, Poverty to Become an International Footballer!

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While Rupanti Munda grew up, she was used to the sight of armed Naxalites barging into homes in her tiny village – demanding food, money, and girls.

Child marriage and human trafficking marred most households. Girls as young as 5 years old were sold by their parents, who struggle to make ends meet.

But none of this deterred 20-year-old Rupanti from challenging the norm and rising like a phoenix.

Born in one of the most notorious villages, Dhoti in the Latehar district situated in the red corridor of Jharkhand, Rupanti Munda has one dream — to become a coach for the Indian football team.

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In class three, the young tribal girl started playing the sport and has continued to do so for over a decade.

Rupanti and her friends were introduced to the game by a teacher in her school, Mr. Bhagatnam. He gifted her her first pair of sports shoes. Until then, she lacked the basic gear to play the game, but her teacher’s support and her passion for football helped her excel.

Her exposure began with interschool matches, and later she participated in intra and inter-village matches – known as Khasi football.

“It’s a match where the winning prize is a goat. We just played because we wanted to win goats,” she laughs.

Rupanti would wake up at 4:30 am, finish all her chores and start training at 7:30 am. “I would practise for two hours, come back home, and then go to school. This game became a part of my life.”

Having only played Khasi matches up until then, she was unaware that the game was also played at a national level. Her first exposure to a match outside the boundaries of her village was at the age of 14 when she went for a state team selection trial. She played as a part of the state team in Uttarakhand in 2011.

A major blow

Rupanti lost her father in 2011. She recalls her time with him saying, “Bapu was always very supportive. He accompanied me whenever I had a match and would pray for my success.”

After playing for the state team, she got selected to represent India. The training camp was in Kerala. Her father’s death had taken a major financial toll on the family.

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“I thought my mother would be not be able to afford my travel and accommodation expenses. But somehow she did as she sourced money to send me to the camp.”

After the strenuous training at the camp, Rupanti was sure she would own her game while representing India at an international tournament. But the dream of donning a jersey that said ‘INDIA’ on the back, with Rupanti’s name underneath it, was shattered into a million pieces when she couldn’t afford a VISA!

As she dealt with the devastation of not being able to go for this tournament, fate proved to be even more unkind – she lost her brother to a Naxalist attack in 2015.

“I was training in Jamshedpur at the time. It broke me and I slipped into a terrible depression. Everything was falling apart. I left everything and rushed back home, to never return. I quit playing football.”

Rupanti suspects her brother was a victim jealousy. The murderer, she says, was the son of the Naxalite leader in her village.

With nobody to support them financially, Rupanti, 15, took charge of looking after her older sister, mother and her brother’s wife and kids. With eight mouths to feed, she was the sole bread winner.

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She collected Mahua, the flowers of which are distilled to make a local liquor. She tried to farm in her own small plot, worked in other households, and even as a daily wage labourer.


Read more: The Untold Story of India’s Leading Woman Sailor, Dr Rohini Rau!


Dreams come true

But a ray of hope emerged when she met Dr Rashmi Tiwari from the Aahan Foundation in 2016, which works to uplift tribal girls vulnerable of being trafficked. The organisation hopes to make the girls more self-reliant and financially independent through mentorship, skills and sport.

She knew about me playing and asked me if I would come to Delhi. For the first time since the death of my bapu & bhaiyya, I decided to chase my dreams. I trusted her and I knew it’s not for nothing.”

Rashmi encouraged Rupanti to assemble other girls and form a team. Today, Rupanti is the captain of the Aahan Braveheart team who have played at the district level to earn laurels.

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Aahan Bravehearts

This year, Rupanti crowdfunded her own visit to represent India at the 15th edition of the Homeless World Cup in Oslo. With over 500 players representing more than 50 countries, the game brings together street football programmes from around the world.

Rupanti ends by saying, “Wearing that jersey with India and my name on it in an open stadium was the most surreal moment of my life. My playing at the Homeless World Cup this year, proves that a financial crisis can never be a hurdle in chasing your passion if you are determined to make it happen.”

Challenges

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The people in her village continued still bad mouth her. “Why are you trying to play a boy’s game? You will never amount to anything! Such jibes became an everyday affair! I would break down at times, but now I don’t care. I have always been a rebel and I will continue to be to chase my dreams.”

She wants to empower other tribals girls too. “I want to help girls from the remotest parts of the country dream big.”

Sadly, her mother drinks herself silly because she has not got over her son’s death.

Rupanti looks after her 8-member family with the money she makes from farming and the stipend she earns from the Aahan Foundation. She aims to collect funds to open a coaching centre in her village to help other tribal girls get trained.

“Now the Aahan Bravehearts team has one only Rupanti. I want to create 20 more Rupantis and help them secure a place not just in the state team but also the national team,” she signs off.

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Fathema Ismail: The Gritty Lady Who Laid The Foundation For a Polio-Free India

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In January 2017, India completed five years of being polio-free. A highly infectious viral disease that leads to irreversible paralysis, polio (or poliomyelitis) once used to cripple more than 50,000 children in the country every year. Thanks to decades of intervention by the Indian government and civil society, it was finally eradicated in 2011.

However, few know that the foundation for this remarkable achievement was laid by a gritty and determined woman who envisioned a polio-free India over seven decades ago. That pioneering lady was Padma Shri Fathema Ismail.

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Born on February 4, 1903, Fathema was the sister of ardent Gandhi supporter and Bombay’s cotton king, Umar Sobhani. Given her brother’s proximity to the leaders of the Indian freedom struggle, she was drawn to issues of social justice and emancipation from a very young age.

Passionate about women’s education, Fathema worked as a teacher at an Industrial Training Centre for women after her marriage to Mohammad Hasham Ismail (a government trade commissioner). She served as the secretary of the Shimla branch of the All India Women’s Conference in 1936 and was a founder member of All India Village Industries Association.

Fathema was also actively involved in the nationalist movements taking place in India. Her house on Nepean Sea Road in Bombay (now Mumbai) was a meeting ground for the members of the Indian National Congress and a safe haven for underground freedom fighters. Jayprakash Narayan, Aruna Asaf Ali and other young leaders often hid at her residence (under assumed names) to avoid getting arrested by the police!

Fathema’s life, however, took a different turn in 1945 when her three-year-old daughter Usha was diagnosed with poliomyelitis. She was deeply dejected on realising that there was very little that could be done. Yet at the same time, she was determined to get her daughter the best medical attention available in the country.

Driven by this thought, Fathema travelled the length and breadth of India to ensure proper medical treatment for her daughter. She was disturbed to see the lack of facilities for polio-stricken children. This, combined with the lackadaisical attitude of the country’s medical community, convinced her to do something to change the lives of polio patients for the better.

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When her husband was transferred to Iran from his posting in Mombasa, Fathema decided to stay back in India. She had heard about a renowned orthopaedic surgeon based in Madras (now Chennai), Dr MG Kini, who could treat her daughter and decided to visit him.

A grumpy old man, Dr Kini declined to accept Usha’s case at first. Nonetheless, his resistance was worn down by the tenacious Fathema who literally sat outside his house every day (accosting him as he travelled between his house and clinic) till he agreed. For the next eight months, she stayed in Madras as her daughter underwent treatment under the supervision of Dr Kini.

Fathema’s next stop after Madras was Pune (where she had learnt there were physiotherapy facilities that could help her daughter’s treatment). These facilities were used by the British physiotherapists and their Indian assistants to treat and rehabilitate injured soldiers. The determined mother requested and petitioned the reluctant authorities till they agreed to give Usha access to the physiotherapy treatment.

A polio-stricken child receiving physiotherapy

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Fathema herself spent time observing and learning the methods employed at the rehabilitation centre. What helped her in this effort was the three years (1920-23) she had spent studying medicine in Vienna (due to a financial crisis, she had to return before she could her complete her course).

After approximately three years of treatment and physiotherapy, Fathema’s daughter regained remarkable mobility in her once completely paralysed right leg. Delighted by the improvement, she decided to use her experience and learning by helping other parents with polio-stricken children.

In 1947, as India began taking her final steps towards independence, Fathema began talking to the leading members of Bombay’s medical community about starting a rehabilitation clinic for polio-stricken kids. However, low awareness about polio along with a financial crunch made it tough for her to find a suitable space and equipment for the clinic, tentatively named Physiotherapy and Rehabilitation Centre for Infantile Paralysis (it was later called Society for Rehabilitation of Crippled Children).

This major hurdle was crossed with help from Dr AV Baliga, a surgeon who generously offered his clinic in Chowpatty to Fathema as he was going to the USA on a six-month study tour. The equipment and kits were sourced from the Army Hospital in Pune that was winding up due to the imminent departure of the British from India. Fathema also convinced the hospital’s Indian physiotherapy assistants to take up jobs at her rehabilitation clinic.

The polio clinic finally opened in May 1947. As the word began to spread about its work, patients began to trickle in. A year later, Fathema’s immensely popular clinic was treating 80 children and had a waiting list of more than a hundred patients!

Children of Society for Rehabilitation of Crippled Children (SRCC) that was started by Fathema Ismail

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As a newly independent India woke up to the needs of polio-stricken and disabled children, the clinic began garnering attention from medical journals, NGOs and activists across the country. Soon, the government of Bombay allotted space in the empty barrack at Marine Drive to Fathema for her clinic.

In 1951, Fathema toured hospitals and attended conferences (including the Second International Polio Poliomyelitis Congress) in USA and Europe for four months. Armed with a vision for a fully-fledged hospital dedicated to polio patients, she returned to India and immediately petitioned Prime Minister Nehru for a plot near the race course at Haji Ali.

When Nehru asked her why she wanted that particular plot, Fathema answered that the racecourse was frequented by affluent people and she wanted them to be aware of the struggles faced by polio-stricken children.

The Prime Minister acquiesced, and himself inaugurated the first-of-its-kind 50-bed hospital in 1953 (it continues to operate to this day). The incredibly dedicated women also convinced several prominent industrialists to offer training to disabled people at her clinics to help them get employment.

In 1959, Fathema started a special class for a few polio-stricken students (including her daughter) which grew into a school for disabled children from underprivileged backgrounds.

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Equipment and free lunches were sponsored by corporate companies while a Fellowship for the Physically Handicapped was set up to provide special education and training to the most promising students.

Today, over 300 students receive academic and vocational training in Fathema’s schools (three day schools in Mumbai and one residential school in Lonavala).

Awarded the Padma Shri in 1958 for her exemplary work, Fathema Ismail passed away on February 4, 1987. The pioneering activist didn’t just transform her daughter’s life; she helped innumerable polio-stricken children stand on their own feet and live life on their own terms. Her years of work also laid the foundation that was crucial for India’s achievement of polio eradication.


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